Monthly Archives: July 2017

Join the Technology World

There have been many things said about the new Apple iPad; it’s the new big thing in the technology world. The must have of the teen world as well as the professional world. The problem is at this time in our lives we cannot afford to spend $500 dollars on “the next best thing”. Well, Apple is willing to give you the chance to own your own brand new iPad without breaking your bank account.

Apple wants you, the consumer, to test out a brand new iPad and send them your feedback. As a thank you for your time and effort to improve this technology breakthrough, Apple will let you keep your new iPad without asking for a dime in return. In short, you test it, you use it, you give your opinions, and then it’s yours for life.

Sounds like a wonderful idea. Almost too good to be true right? Well we are here to tell you that sometimes things this good can be true. There are many ads and “pop ups” screaming at you that they will give you “this great new product” and it always turns out to be a scammers way of getting a few dollars and you get nothing in return. But we give you this promise; Apple will NEVER ask you for money with this offer. Apple does not want your money; only your help to make sure the new iPad really is the “next best thing”.

Go quick and follow this link to your brand new Apple iPad, this is a limited time offer. Apple will only need your help for so long, so get there before someone else is walking down the street with the iPad that should have been yours!

Keep Your Sanity Clear in Our Technological World

In one of the families I worked with lately, the father, a very successful director has been working about 18 hours a day and was abroad once a month, leaving the mother alone to cope with their two babies. After two stressful years the company he worked for collapsed. He was subsequently depressed and kept asking himself whether it had been worthwhile being away from the family, and investing all this time and these efforts in work.

In general, most of the large companies we encounter in the market today can’t avoid falling into the common trap of an unbalanced chasing after ‘achievement’ and ‘progress’. This is because of market instability and competition that harm the quality of lives of adults and children. We are all in the same boat. The organizational way of thinking and organizational climate is of major importance to us as most of us work in these companies. Sometimes these companies offer company shares (options), luxuries and even special kindergartens for kids inside the company’s campus, but make no mistake! By undertaking these actions they actually bring about alienation between the members of the family. Another negative byproduct is that they place a great burden on the emotional ties in the family which are crucial for a healthy life.

We may consider as an example the small grocery store. Forty years ago it was usually operated by the owner, who could allow himself to close at noon for a break as well as early at around 7 p.m., as well as during weekends and one afternoon a week. Nowadays, many of the small old grocery stores are gone and instead we have co-operative supermarkets that are open until late at night and during the weekends too. The balance we used to have is gone probably forever. The people who operate the store can no longer come home and relax and their children receive less attention. The example I gave is not related to technology and industry but still gives an impression of the processes in hi-tech and low-tech companies. In these companies, the workers and managers all have to work overtime because of the difficult competition in the market, with resulting major flaws to the psychological balance and the quality of family life.

The paradox of a technological society is that on the one hand life has apparently become easier. You do not need to squeeze orange juice any more to prepare your morning juice and greetings for a friend’s birthday can be sent electronically. You don’t need to actually talk to your mate anymore in order to wish him or her a happy birthday! On the other hand our emotional lives have become much more complex due to the ability of technology to connect us anywhere. From a psychological point of view one can also elaborate widely (perhaps in a different article) on the transformation of relationships within the family that were once much more “psychologically nutritious”(e.g. family members would sit and have a family dinner together regularly almost every evening). Due to these transformations family relationships have become less “nutritious” because of less available time and work preoccupation of the parents. An example would be adolescents who sit each one in a different room with his or her own computer, playing and eating a snack instead of supper while the mother is talking on her cell-phone with her work colleague and the father is abroad for work.

I would like to suggest several ways to keep our sanity in this technological world, small things that sometimes might make a significant change.

In ongoing counseling sessions many times very special relationships are woven. I think to myself many times what are the factors that exist there, within the counseling setting, from which we can learn and use in order to improve our emotional ties and attachments to our beloved ones. Here are three useful keys to think about as a start: The first one, if you’re in a meeting with someone important to you, a spouse, a child or a friend, is that it’s better meeting him or her for a shorter time interval and only in the break after the meeting receiving your message and answering them. Keeping the cell-phone open would usually spoil and contaminate your precious mutual time together. Indeed, therapists usually limit the time of a meeting and take a fifteen minute break which enables them to catch up on missed messages.

It is a known and accepted practice in counseling that achievements will not happen in non-stable, non-predictable and non-consistent settings. Important psychological functions such as a good capacity to be in relationships and to love are built when the meetings are both predictable and constant. Make the meetings with your beloved ones on a weekly basis. If you unexpectedly cancel a meeting with your counselor you would probably have to pay him or her the price of that meeting. You should probably find a substitute mechanism that will help both parties learn how to respect satisfactorily their precious mutual time in your close intimate relationships.

Decide mutually and fairly whose time it is today. Am I the “patient” or the “therapist” today? and give yourself feedback about how was I in this role. If I’m the listener today, how well did I do it? Can I improve something? Did I feel okay in this role? If not, what’s the source of the difficulty I felt etc.

Maintaining Balance in a Technological

In the modern age of texts, tweets, and status updates, it is of utmost importance that parents maintain open lines of face-to-face, soul-to-soul communication with their children. This does not mean resisting a highly technological world that is not going away, but rather continually exploring new ways to connect with one another both on and beyond the keyboard. The new technology in and of itself is not detrimental to children and can be quite useful to them in many ways, but it must be coupled with daily opportunities for personal reflection, creative inspiration, and heart connection with others. It becomes the parents’ role to both monitor technological use as their children’s sole means of communication and to provide the space and encouragement for life-affirming communication and choices.

Today’s children often become immersed in a world of technology and friendships that may seem quite foreign to parents. The more attuned parents are to their children’s interests other than technology, the better able they are to utilize those interests as opportunities for expanded connection. Parents can view all interests as possible pathways to enhance real life interactions. Parents must observe closely what truly brings their children joy, where they are most authentic, and what makes their eyes sparkle. To light the path of infusing deeper meaning into everyday life, parents must continually assess whether they are offering a true understanding of core concepts like authenticity, self-love, connectedness, gratitude and presence in tandem with their children’s inevitable foray into a fast-paced and ever-changing technological world. Parents must not only teach these concepts but also model ways for their children to integrate them into life experiences and relationships.

The invitation for all parents is to actively participate in as many areas of their children’s lives as possible without decreasing their natural move towards independence. Children’s passions when viewed from an expanded perspective offer rich material and opportunity to connect with them in deep and joyous ways. Songs, movies, and all veins of creative expression (even technology) provide optimal entry points into daily conversation and in-depth discussion. Parents can utilize everyday life to dissect and review the core concepts mentioned above to expand perspective and enhance the parent/child bond. The space and opportunity to discuss the touchstones of the day can be created through a weekly family discussion, a nightly chat at bedtime, the family dinner, or time spent together in the car with technology off. Parents must be continually on the lookout for a bridge into their children’s world, while at the same time enforce time-outs from computerized communication.

Due to the fact that the new technology is here to stay, to resist it outright will create a backlash for parents and children alike. Instead, the best strategy is to discuss often and enforce expectations regarding appropriate use. Parents must explain to their children why balance in this area is vital to their overall well-being. The capacity to be inspired to create in any venue requires downtime, reflection, openness, and connection to the deeper space within. It is important for children to understand that there is a place for multi-tasking and technological communication, but it is the relationship with their own interior and life itself that ignites their highest potential.

As parents give their children permission to be authentic in their choices, they must also offer them the parental insight that there are multiple angles to every choice. Parents can encourage transparency and honesty by creating a family structure that helps children monitor their choices-such as computer use on the first floor only and no hand-held devices allowed during meal times, family outings, or after 8pm. Parents should not be afraid to expect and enforce accountability, while at the same time remain open to the child’s new world. It is imperative that parents take the time to teach children that current choices affect future reality. In other words, parents should assist them in coming to understand that they are the source, not the effect-joy begets more joy, inspiration begets more inspiration, and also the opposite.

Conscious parenting requires active participation in all aspects of family life including the explosive use of technology. Parents must remain extremely aware of their own technological use and their presence within the family. As parents feel their way in regards to their own relationship to technology, they can begin to intuitively reach for the openings to interact richly with their children that occur naturally rather than push too hard at the wrong time. The teenage years are fast and fleeting. There is much sharing, laughter, togetherness, and JOY to be had. As parents model balance, authentic living and deep connection, their beloved children will follow suit in their own way, through not only their face-to-face, soul-to-soul interactions, but through their inevitable online interactions as well.